By Liberty Forrest
Imagine this: Every morning, you get out of bed, put on your bathrobe and brush your teeth. Bleary-eyed, you stumble to the kitchen and put on a pot of coffee. While that’s brewing, you haul out a frying pan, put it on some heat and chuck in some butter.
Next, you get a little bowl. You throw in an egg, a bit of milk and a pinch of salt. You mix it all up, drop a piece of bread in the bowl, flip it over to coat both sides, and once that butter is melted, you place the bread in the pan.
You stand there absentmindedly staring at the bread, mulling over the coming day without drawing any particular conclusions about it because you’re not fully functional yet. You keep staring at the piece of bread and wondering how it looks on the bottom.
After a few minutes, it starts to smell like the bottom might be cooked. You flip it over and discover that it’s a beautiful golden brown. Your mouth begins to water as you wait for the other side to cook.
You remember that you need to get the jam and other necessary breakfast things out so you stop watching the bread. You gather everything you need and put it all on the table.
You can smell the coffee as it’s beginning to seep through the filter and into the waiting pot below. Your nose is happy, knowing that it’s almost time to sip that potent nectar that will jump-start your heart and get you moving for the day.
When the second side of the bread is cooked, you slide it out of the pan and onto a plate. You pad across the floor and put the plate on the table. Picking up a knife, you scoop some jam out of the jar and cover the golden French toast with sticky crushed berries and a light dusting of icing sugar (or perhaps you’d prefer syrup on yours).
But wandering through your head now and then are strange thoughts. Occasionally, there is the one that says you’d really love crispy bacon and a couple of fried eggs and maybe some hash browns or toast. Perhaps a bowl of oatmeal, or an even stranger one saying that you might enjoy a bowl of homemade soup for breakfast. Or perhaps you would enjoy some freshly baked muffins.
Yes, those other thoughts wander through your mind, not just while you’re standing at the stove and staring at the egg-soaked bread as it fries in the buttered pan. Those thoughts creep in sometimes when you’re at work or doing the laundry or even at the grocery store where you could actually buy what you need to make those other breakfast. But you don’t.
So there you are, wishing you could have one of those other breakfasts. But oddly, none of those ever appears while you’re melting the butter in the pan and mixing the egg and milk every morning. No matter how often you stand there thinking about bacon and eggs or freshly baked muffins, all that ends up on the table is French toast and coffee.
Are you dissatisfied with your job? Do you keep saying the same things over and over again in an effort to resolve problems with your partner, your parent, or your child? Do you feel discontented, restless, stuck and frustrated, knowing something needs to change but then not changing it?
Well, as long as you don’t change it, it won’t change. Unless, of course, someone else does the changing first but if you’re going to wait for that, you might be waiting till they’re selling ice cream in The Very Hot Place.
If your words aren’t being heard and the problems are not being resolved, find different words, a different approach, or another tactic. If you hate your job, start looking for a new one or turn a hobby into a business on the side and build it up over time. If you’re tired of doing the same old things, then find some more exciting new ones.
The bottom line is, if you want your life to change, you’ve got to change your life. The possibilities for ways to improve it, to get it moving, and to make it better are endless.
But one thing’s for sure. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’ve got.