All of your personal, subconscious beliefs are malleable, they can be changed. No belief is too big or too small, too grand nor too insignificant to be changed. The preliminary step to changing your beliefs is knowing that it is indeed possible to do so, and you can do so consciously and purposefully! If you don’t trust they can be changed, at least be willing and open. If you already trust you can change your beliefs; great, you are ready to put in some work.
Why Change Your Beliefs?
So why change them? Your beliefs generate your entire life experience, so that’s a pretty solid reason, I would say. But the most common specific reasons people want to change their beliefs are because they are unhappy or unsuccessful, they live in pain, or they don’t feel good enough to live the life that would make them happy. They understand if they just felt better about themselves then they could create what they wanted, and in any arena (personal growth, business, relationships, health etc.).
Your beliefs generate emotions; the way you respond emotionally to anything is based on your beliefs, and it has little to do with what you are physically experiencing.
Beliefs feel permanent and written in stone; they have to, otherwise, you could not have your own set of personal belief systems that allow you to experience life. For example, if beliefs didn’t feel solid then how could you rely upon them? How could you fall asleep at night comfortably if you might wake up the next morning not knowing who you are, where you live, how to walk or breathe? So you need to rely upon your beliefs, to know that they are there to support you, but in that same breath, it makes it feel like they are impossible to change. And they are almost impossible to change outside of meditation, so if you are trying to change without meditating you will have a difficult time accomplishing that (but not impossible).
You Can Change Your Beliefs
In truth, you must have the understanding that any belief you have can be altered to whatever degree you wish. If you know this, you are relaxed when you discover you’re stuck in your life, or you find that your current sets of beliefs are holding you back. You relax, trusting you have the power to change, and you build up your willingness to do the work to change. If you do not trust the ability to change your beliefs then you will often compromise your life and build a lifestyle around your various blockages/issues, which brings you little to no happiness in that area.
How to Change Your Beliefs
The first step to changing your beliefs is to know what they are. This is significant so I will repeat: you must identify your current programming.
How do you do this?
Sit in silence and relax your mind, enter a meditative state any way you know how. The best way I recommend is to personify your subconscious inner self, see them as a reflection of you (they will look very similar to how you do now) and have a discussion (they will answer you intuitively). Contemplate, reflect, and ask questions to your subconscious; probe it for insights and data on the area you are wanting to discover your beliefs, it will answer you. This may go smoothly or take several attempts, but once you find your belief it will go “twang!” Inside of you, it will ring true (often to your solemn acceptance or horror at the truth).
Here’s an example:
Ask yourself: Why do I always self-sabotage my relationships (or never start that business etc.)?
You can look at any area of your life. Reflect on your past or current relationships, first on what went well and then the pattern you’re stuck in when you do self-sabotage. You might notice in your reflection that you always pull away when your partner gets too close, or you might freak out when they pull away etc. (Again, you can go through the process for your productivity, your fitness/diet goals, anything you want).
Ask yourself: “What would I have to believe is true in order to create this behaviour?”
Get some ideas flowing. Begin asking your inner self questions like: “Why do I pull away when it gets too tough? Am I afraid of betrayal? Failure? Do I feel I am undeserving? Is it too good to be true?”
The steps sound simple but can take some practice!
As I stated earlier, listen to your subconscious feedback and you’ll eventually feel a “Twang!” And you’ll know the truth for you. Once you do, study it closely and confirm it. Your subconscious will not always give you a straight answer, so you have to learn the right questions to ask to dig up the truth, or you get good at making suggestions to verify if they are true.
In next month’s issue, I will make some suggestions and offer some guidance on what to do once you have identified your beliefs, and how to change them!
Do your best,
Eternal Health Services